What is it about locked doors that are so tantalizing to people? We always want what we can’t have, and for some reason, some people…when a door is closed or locked to them, instead of looking for an alternate door, sit and bang their head on the locked door. Like it’s just going to magically open or something.
It’s not going to magically open.
So what do you do when a door is locked or closed and it’s just not budging? Well number one, you don’t sit and bitch and whine about it and talk about how the world is unfair and no one appreciates your genius. Not only is this completely unproductive, but it sets up a type of negativity that will quickly be followed by levels of self doubt so great you might stop trying altogether.
I truly believe that doors don’t typically open for constantly negative and pessimistic people. In large part because such people believe they are victims and that the odds are stacked against them. When you believe yourself to be a victim the world treats you as one. No one goes out of their way to respect someone who doesn’t first respect themselves.
In the personal path I’ve chosen for my writing, there will initially be many closed doors. I know this going in. But there are also open doors. The doors that are open and receptive are where it makes the most sense to focus the most of one’s initial efforts. After all, you are one person, you can’t do everything at once anyway. Best to prioritize. Then a little at a time as you make contacts, and prove yourself, the doors that were originally closed, start to crack open a bit.
It’s my view, that doors open when one has earned it. Period. There are no short cuts no matter what road you’re on. When I write something worth being noticed for and get it into enough hands to get peeps talking, then doors will start to slide open. But until and unless I write something worthy of that kind of attention, I’m not going to expect it. And I’m sure as hell not going to bruise my head by banging it against locked doors. I need to stay cute, after all.
September 25, 2008 at 2:36 pm
If you went to the remotest place in the farthest-off corner of the world, found a hidden cave and went to the very darkest back of it, then painted a button, with text under it that said, “this button will end the world, do not push”, the paint would not have time to DRY before some asshat was jabbing at it.
September 25, 2008 at 2:53 pm
Hey Lindsay, I freaking love that you are calling yourself “the Lindsay” hahahahaha
And yes, I totally agree. Bitches want to push the button.
September 25, 2008 at 3:46 pm
Very thought provoking, Zoe. However, you’re absolutely right. Some people just don’t get it. There are reasons some doors are closed (and locked). That door isn’t right for you. When it comes to publishing, you’re not gonna submit an erotica to an inspirational publisher. You find the door that’s right.
September 25, 2008 at 3:46 pm
Hey. How come I got the creepy looking little alien/dragon icon?
September 25, 2008 at 4:41 pm
Liz’s icon is cute compared to mine. Liz, I’ll trade you.
If you’re depressed or feel like a victim, you’re likely to give up sooner, too. It’s the people who persevere and keep trying harder who make it. Along with some who are really good right off the bat.
September 25, 2008 at 5:24 pm
hehehehe Liz, I have no idea. It’s a cute icon lol.
And now I kind of want to submit an erotica to an inspirational publisher just to be evil. lol. Though they wouldn’t find it funny so it would be pointless.
September 25, 2008 at 5:25 pm
NO Edie, you HAVE to keep your icon! In my mind you are…”Edie…ANGRY bug!” hahaha
September 25, 2008 at 5:28 pm
I believe that most “locked” doors have a key lying around somewhere if one has the persistence to find it. Breaking a window or attempting to squeeze through the air vent is usually a bad idea. Find the key or find another door.
September 25, 2008 at 6:18 pm
I was taught that if you find a locked door, you throw yourself down in front of it and whine until someone gets sick of you and opens it.
September 25, 2008 at 6:44 pm
True, bunnygirl.
September 25, 2008 at 6:44 pm
LMAO Robin! hahahahahahaha. That’s awesome!