So I’m thinking about cliche romance covers. You know, heaving bosoms and crap like that. And I know that KEPT is sort of in that cliche cover camp. But it was the highest voted of all the cover options, so I went with it. And I also justify it because it’s an ebook, if anybody reads it in public, few onlookers are going to see the cover image, so no one has to be embarrassed about what they’re reading.

Before I started reading romance, this was my take on it: Harlequin (boy those guys know how to market a brand.) Category romance. Heaving bosoms. Titles like: “The millionaire mistress’ baby daddy.” Okay not really, more like: “His virginal bride” or “The Greek Millionaire’s Mistress.” (This might actually BE a romance title.)

I’m not sure what the big to do is about virgins though. I think maybe we like that whole “vulnerable female,” “big strong male” thing, though a lot of people deny it. But there are OTHER ways to show this besides women who have never had sex. Come on, now.

Anyway, so stuck in my head was the Harlequin Category Romance version of romance. And I know some people devour these books, but I don’t like them. That’s just me. They don’t generally have enough substance, and they’re just not my thing. (Which isn’t to say I think my writing is better or has more substance, I am just not a category romance reader. I’m also not a Sci-Fi reader. It’s not personal.)

BUT, I have always been interested in romance (as a concept), love, power dynamics in relationships, etc. I want to know who is sleeping with who in everything. And I want to know if they love each other, hate each other, think they hate each other but really love each other.

And romance is everywhere. Hellboy? Sure, there’s a lot of explosions and fighting and witty banter, but there is also an entire ROMANCE plot line between him and the fire chick. Buffy? Angel and Buffy. Buffy and Spike. True Blood. Sookie and Bill, Sookie and Eric. (well not quite yet on the show, but it better be upcoming.)

Firefly: Science freaking fiction. Mal and Inanna. Zoe and Walsh. (Firefly is one of the few Sci-Fi anythings I could really get into.)

There is love and there is sex and there is romance in everything.

The problem with the stereotype against the romance “genre” is that people get it in their heads that it’s just romance with no actual catalyst to bring them together. The really great romance happens in the midst of everything else, not as a stand alone feature.

Tom was reading SAVE MY SOUL, and KEPT, and he’s like: “Well, it’s not just romance.” Bingo. Romance “isn’t” just romance. It’s just the major thread of the storyline we’re focused on. There are other things going on. It’s not all: “Oh he’s sexy I want to sleep with him. I like him I wonder if he likes me.” Sure we have this angst, and sure, it gets slightly larger billing than the romantic subthread in most other stories, but it doesn’t mean it’s all category romance. (i.e. thin harlequin books with cheesy covers and very expository titles.)

Which brings me back to covers. I think sometimes we ghettoize ourselves with these covers. (And I get it’s publishers in charge of this, not writers.) I was reading one of those Top 3 wishes for romance novels threads on the Amazon discussion groups.

Almost every single person said: “STOP DOING THE SEXY COVERS.” Why? Because women are embarrassed to buy these books and read them in public. But we’ve painted ourselves in a corner. Without a heaving bosom, or a completely expository title, how will the books get to the right readers? Oh noes, the horrors!

It’s like even we don’t believe that romance readers are very bright. (we being anyone publishing a book, again, not the writer’s fault unless you’re publishing your own work) If there aren’t heaving bosoms or the word virgin or bad boy in the title then we get confused about what’s going on. (And actually “bad boys” might be in the novella series print title hahaha. So I’m a total hypocrite. But if I come up with something better, I’ll use it.)

Stewart thought I wrote urban fantasy, instead of paranormal romance. If I write urban fantasy, men will read it too. If I write paranormal romance, almost every reader will be a woman. I don’t have an automatic problem with this, except for the gender ghettoization (is that a word?) of books that both genders could easily read and like, if not for the heaving bosoms and overwhelming “girlie-ness” of them. And also, we have to ditch euphemistic sex, either write it or don’t write it, but “man root” and sword and dragon imagery is doing nothing for me, but making me laugh. Either turn me on, or make me cry, or laugh (in the “laughing with you” way, some sex scenes are meant to be funny), or something. But don’t give me the obligatory purple prose sex scene, please, God.

It takes two to tango. And in heterosexual romances, that means there are male characters. With more male readers, would writers write better male characters? Maybe so.

All I know is that paranormal romance can reach out and snag some urban fantasy readers and some general fantasy readers just by not overplaying the romance card, and still snag romance readers. Yes, you can’t reach every reader, but romance can gain new readers if it stops looking like the stripper at the family reunion.

YA romance does this beautifully. Twilight is a YA romance. It has all the elements of a romance, and the relationship between Bella and Edward is the primary driving force behind the entire book. Are just romance fans reading it? Nope? Why not? The lack of heaving bosoms might be part of it.

And just to let you know just how deep the romance genre stigma goes . . . When I was in eighth grade, my English teacher was really supportive over the “I want to be a writer” thing. And she told me she had a published writer friend who wrote romances. I nodded and smiled (God I HOPE I nodded and smiled, instead of saying something bad about Romance.) Anyway but in my head, I thought “Romance? Pffft. Those aren’t even real books.”

So even in 8th grade, when I knew even less shit than I know now, the snobbery was there.

Also, KEPT is out, but Cynthia Eden has a book that came out today: Midnight Sins. Check it out! She’s a fabulous writer.